Ask People These 3 Questions, You'll Connect Instantly.

How To Build Instant Rapport and Influence

Hey, I’m Sam! Glad you’re here.

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Sam

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Many people I meet assume that I’m an extrovert.

I enjoy meeting new people, going out, and being social.

But at my core, introversion is my natural state.

In the past, I avoided meeting new people because small talk felt empty, and I preferred staying in my comfort zone with a few close friends.

But at some point, I realized something important: If I didn’t learn how to build connections and communicate effectively, I’d be cutting myself off from growth opportunities and limiting the relationships and experiences I could have—both personally and professionally.

That realization led me to start studying how to communicate effectively.

I read books, listened to podcasts and took courses on communication skills and bit by bit applied what I was learning.

Over time, I started noticing a pattern—people would tell me they felt clearer and more motivated after our conversations.

I realized that there are specific things you can do in a conversation that create deeper connections.

If you don’t learn to connect with people quickly, you’ll miss out on countless business, social and growth opportunities. You’ll find it much harder to influence others, and many of your relationships will remain surface-level.

But if you do master this skill, you will attract other influential people into your life. Opportunities will flow in your direction. You’ll inspire, influence, and build meaningful relationships naturally.

Here are three questions that will quickly build deeper connections:

1. What are you happy about in your life right now?

This question shifts the conversation away from routine complaints and toward positive emotions. When someone shares what’s making them happy, their energy shifts and they associate the good feelings with you.

2. What’s a lesson you’ve learned that changed you?

This question invites people to share something meaningful. It creates a moment of reflection and often leads to deeper stories, allowing you to understand them on a more personal level. It also tends to invite some level of vulnerability into the conversation, which is leads to deeper rapport.

3. What do you want to create or achieve in the next 3-6 months?

This question helps you understand what thee other person values and what they are motivated by. When you know what someone values, communication becomes more effective because you can align conversations with their goals and aspirations. This question makes people feel seen, heard, and supported which are key ingredients for a strong connection.

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Try these questions in your next conversation.

They’ll make you instantly more engaging, memorable, and influential.

Talk soon,

Samuel